life chooses us

In our Western, and particularly American way of thinking, I think we think we choose the life that we lead. We choose the things we do. We choose whom to marry. We choose the jobs we have. But is this real? Do we?
Jesus said that we did not choose him but He chose us to go and bear fruit that would last.
He chose us.
And I am starting to think that this is true for all of life. So many forces and factors are in place that we really do not choose the life we live, but it chooses us. Or more likely, God chooses the life we live. He has put all these factors together that things are inevitable. Or mostly so. But I am not a fatalist; and I do think free will and sovereignty are both true. But God is more free than we are and our choices do have bounds; obviously.
But I could trace back the factors that lead to my becoming a teacher; and it seems rather inevitable to me that I did so. And yet I in some ways could wish I was a movie director, or a writer of books, or a pro athelete (although I did give my best try in one sport down that line and just didn't have enough God given attributes). But that is not where I am.
So, maybe the life we live chooses us, God chooses us and what we become, even though we are making choices all the way through.
Food for thought.