i hate it when Christians are judgmental

I hate it so bad when Christians are judgmental. "Oh, look, that teen is bored in church. What's wrong with them?" What's wrong with them??? What's wrong with you? For picking on someone for not liking something they may find irrelevant, out of date, or just not done well you are just a stuck up, self righteous, insensitive bore. The sin of boring someone lies with the speaker, not the listener anyway. But beyond that, the reality is that older people who judge younger Christians are one of the reasons that young people are leaving the "Church" in droves. I don;t believe they are leaving the church. They are leaving our religious meetings because they cannot stand to be judged by people who say they love God, but actually do not. Who are actually more in love with their own ability to keep their list of rights so that they think God is happy with them, when actually His heart breaks because they don;t care about the people they are hurting. That's what judgmental Christians do all the time. And they should be ashamed of themselves and apologize to every person with a tattoo they have looked down on, to every long haired male they have sniffed their noses at, to every other person they have felt it their right to judge, when there is only one judge and He looks at the heart. That is what we must try to see into. So if you are a judgmental Christian, knock it off, and start loving people and not your own image in the mirror.

life chooses us

In our Western, and particularly American way of thinking, I think we think we choose the life that we lead. We choose the things we do. We choose whom to marry. We choose the jobs we have. But is this real? Do we?
Jesus said that we did not choose him but He chose us to go and bear fruit that would last.
He chose us.
And I am starting to think that this is true for all of life. So many forces and factors are in place that we really do not choose the life we live, but it chooses us. Or more likely, God chooses the life we live. He has put all these factors together that things are inevitable. Or mostly so. But I am not a fatalist; and I do think free will and sovereignty are both true. But God is more free than we are and our choices do have bounds; obviously.
But I could trace back the factors that lead to my becoming a teacher; and it seems rather inevitable to me that I did so. And yet I in some ways could wish I was a movie director, or a writer of books, or a pro athelete (although I did give my best try in one sport down that line and just didn't have enough God given attributes). But that is not where I am.
So, maybe the life we live chooses us, God chooses us and what we become, even though we are making choices all the way through.
Food for thought.